Do you find your thoughts dominated by a specific person, replaying past interactions or imagining future scenarios with them? This relentless focus can even interfere with daily tasks and responsibilities.
Do you feel heightened emotions, whether of joy or despair, based on the smallest actions or inactions of this person? A simple gesture, an offhand comment, or even their silence might send your emotions on a rollercoaster.
Distraction Techniques: Engaging in activities or hobbies to divert your attention away from the person?
Seeking Therapy or Counseling: Talking to a professional who can provide guidance and coping strategies?
Limiting Contact: Reducing or eliminating interactions with the person to lessen the intensity of your feelings?
Journaling: Writing down your emotions and thoughts to gain clarity and perspective?
Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing being present and grounding yourself to reduce obsessive thoughts?
Talking to Trusted Friends or Family: Sharing your feelings with someone who can offer support and a different viewpoint?
Setting Boundaries: Being clear with yourself about what behaviors or thoughts are not productive and trying to avoid them?
A method that in just TWO sessions could dissolve the overwhelming obsession, replacing it with a profound inner peace you might have not experienced for a long time.
The journey to overcoming limerence involves several key steps, which form the foundation of my unique method. This method is not a quick fix; rather, it's a comprehensive approach to understanding and healing the emotional triggers of limerence.
Before we can truly address limerence, or any emotional or psychological challenge, it's crucial to understand its origins. This doesn't just mean recognizing that you feel a certain way, but digging deeper to uncover why you feel this way. By tracing back these feelings, you can identify the triggering events, past experiences, or unresolved emotions that might be feeding into your current state. Such understanding can be liberating, offering clarity and insight into patterns that may have previously seemed inexplicable.
After identifying the root causes of limerence, the next crucial step is to work towards resolution. This involves more than just suppressing or managing your feelings; it requires addressing and healing the underlying issues. Our focus will be on releasing the painful emotions that drive limerence, utilizing guided introspection, therapeutic techniques, and targeted exercises. By doing so, we aim to untangle the emotional web that fuels limerence and find resolution. This approach has been proven to reduce the intensity of overwhelming emotions that often accompany limerence, empowering individuals to regain control over their emotions and actions.
After an individual gains better control over their emotions and attains clarity during limerent episodes, we shift our focus towards addressing limerence as a coping mechanism akin to addiction. Over time, one may learn to rely on limerence during times of distress. This is when we introduce various strategies and tools to help manage triggers and challenging situations. These may include grounding exercises to regulate intense emotions, cognitive techniques to reframe obsessive thoughts, or behavioral strategies to break limerent patterns. By consistently practicing and incorporating these strategies into daily life, individuals can better prepare themselves for future obstacles and prevent limerence from regaining its grip.
“Having suffered from limerence for three years, I read many books and articles, and listened to experts on YouTube…all with no avail. As I began to wonder if hypnotherapy would be helpful, I met Victoria on a Facebook page for people with limerence. What a fortuitous meeting! Victoria and I conferred via zoom, and she was able to help alleviate many of the more troublesome aspects of this addiction. She is able ascertain the core problems quickly and determine the direction the work should follow. Victoria was able to help me in just a few sessions. She has the most gentle and appealing voice, and it was evident from the start that she was truly invested in my situation, and really cared that I be relived of much of the burden of limerence which can take over one’s mind…and life.”
K Combs Louisiana, USA